Don’t Let Your Walk Become Fifty Shades Darker

Ugg.  The sickness has hit my house this week.  We are on the mend, but I am a little behind on blogging.  As it is Thursday, I won’t begin my new series on sexual integrity until next week, but here’s something that needs to be said today.

Please be warned, this is a little harsh.  I tried to write this in a non-offensive manner (seriously, I did try), but when I sugar-coated it, my message got sort of lost.  I promise you, I am being as gentile as I can be without losing the importance of the message.  Please know this comes from a place of love and not judgment or condemnation.  As we will see in the upcoming series on sexual integrity, I struggle with what I watch and read as well.


John 14:15-17 (NKJ):  15 If you love Me, keep[d] My commandments. 16 And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever— 17 the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you. 18 I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you.

When I am strolling through my Facebook newsfeed, I can’t but help to notice all the women who are excited about the new Fifty Shades Darker movie coming out (I believe) today.  What is alarming is just how many of those women are Christian. Yes, for some who have heard me say this before (with the book and first movie), you may think I am beating a dead horse, but I feel called to speak out once again.

For those of my sisters dying to see this movie, please ask yourself the following questions:

What does it do for my witness for Christ when others see me in line or in the movie theater for this particular movie?

I’ll tell you what it does, it kills it.  There is no grey here (pardon my pun). This movie flies in the face of everything we say we believe in.  No matter how we feel, if we call ourselves Christians, we are witnesses for Christ; we are just good witnesses or bad witnesses. Furthermore, adding your money to the pot, only gives these movie guys more reasons to make more movies like this.

Also, please do not buy the lie that this movie or these book will improve your love life.   If you are to that point, let me encourage you to seek help from something and somewhere else.  There are many Christian books on the topic as well as Christian counselors you could talk to.  Yes, your husband may be encouraging you to go and he may go with you, but that does not make it okay.  It is the same as watching straight up porn together…in a public forum.  Yes, this movie may spice up your love life for a time, but it will never fix what is broken; it will never fulfill you the way God intended.  I hear the shouts of husbands from all over, “Stop, you are ruining this for us!”  And my reply, “I sure hope so!”

“You have heard that the law of Moses says, `Do not commit adultery.’  But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28)

Am I okay with my husband watching porn to have sex with me?

Ladies we are the epitome of double standards.  Most of us would be heart-broken to find that our husbands have to watch porn in order to have sex with us.  When a woman finds out her husband indulges in porn, she is often left to wonder, “Am I not good enough?”  “How can I live up to that?”  Do we not think our husbands feel the same?   Sure, some men may not care as long as his physical needs are being met, but I believe those men are in denial, not walking with the Lord, or not seeking Him on this issue.  If you are not okay with your husband watching porn, you should not be okay with watching this movie.  If you are okay with your husband watching porn, then please seek the Lord on this issue.

Philippians 4:8 (NKJ): Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

Am I willing to save a seat for Jesus?

As we seen from John 14:17, Jesus, through Holy Spirit, lives inside all Christians.  Where we go, he goes.

1 Corinthians 3:16 Do you not know that you are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?

When I am trying to decide if something on television or whatever is appropriate to watch, I just picture Jesus sitting next to me.  Would I be willing to watch this program if Jesus was physically in the room with me?  What I sometimes fail to remember is that Jesus is always in the room with me.

This may seem silly, but it has been working for me.

I know this is not a message most want to hear.  When I talk obedience to the Word of God, I am often reminded that we are dead to the Law.  Please be reminded that I am not talking salvation here.  We are truly saved by grace.  Yes, Christ’s blood covers our sins.  We are forgiven people.  What we do with that grace is up to us.

Romans 6:1-4 (NKJ): What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it? Or do you not know that as many of us as were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? Therefore we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.

For me, when I am outright walking in sin, my relationship with Christ suffers.  The more I indulge, the further I feel (God isn’t moving, I am) and the less I want to follow Him.  Thus begins a vicious cycle.  However, when I walk obedience to the Word of God, I see the promises in His Word come to life and I am drawn to Him.

Ephesians 5:8-13 (NKJ): For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light (for the fruit of the Spirit[b] is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), 10 finding out what is acceptable to the Lord. 11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret. 13 But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light. 14 Therefore He says:

“Awake, you who sleep,
Arise from the dead,
And Christ will give you light.”

Be Blessed and Be a Blessing,



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