Today, we will finally wrap up this mini-series on marriage. Woo-Hoo! I know some, maybe even most, of you are glad for this one to be ending as talking about marriage is not always fun. But, I do pray, that this somehow reminded and inspired you to be the husband or wife God designed you to be.
Anyway, yesterday we began talking that this whole marriage mess we find ourselves in today is really the fault of Adam and Eve. Yes, when they sinned, their eyes were indeed open, and God brought down the hammer.
Genesis 3:14-19 (NKJ): So the Lord God said to the serpent: “Because you have done this, You are cursed more than all cattle, And more than every beast of the field; On your belly you shall go, And you shall eat dust All the days of your life. 15 And I will put enmity Between you and the woman, And between your seed and her Seed; He shall bruise your head, And you shall bruise His heel.”
16 To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”
17 Then to Adam He said, “Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’: “Cursed is the ground for your sake; In toil you shall eat of it All the days of your life. 18 Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you, And you shall eat the herb of the field. 19 In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread Till you return to the ground, For out of it you were taken; For dust you are, And to dust you shall return.”
Can you say CONSEQUENCES?
As you can see, there were consequences for all three parties. Furthermore, those consequences were and are far-reaching as we are still living those consequences out.
The serpent’s consequences-He is cursed; he is the lowest of lows. There will be conflict between Satan,the woman, and all of her offspring. Eve’s offspring became the rest of mankind. As a punishment, Satan and mankind will always be in conflict and will constantly be in battle, striking out at one another.
Woman’s consequences-The most commonly know consequence or punishment for Eve’s sin is pain in childbirth. But there is one that I believe is far more reaching and devastating to marriages today. Let us look again at Genesis 3: 16 , this time in the New Living translation.
Then he said to the woman, “I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.[c]”
I previously thought when it said “your desire will be for your husband (NKJ),” it meant sexually. Now, I can see how the NLT version makes a whole lot more sense. Our desires will be to control. Yep, I can totally see that in today’s marriages, in my own marriage. Because of Eve’s sin, we now have to not only go head to head with Satan, we have to battle our own desires of control. To some this doesn’t seem fair. Why would God make us like this (please stay tuned next week for an in-depth study on this one)? God didn’t design us that way, rather the consequences of sin disrupted God’s plan. God forgives. Eve and mankind can be forgiven, but the doesn’t mean there are still not consequences. You don’t even have to look very hard to see that what happened with Eve, is still happening today. Satan got her to question the word of God and instead of turning to her husband for help, she decided to take it upon herself. Her costly decision not only led herself astray but her husband as well.
Man’s consequences -Man will know have to work for everything he has, wants, or needs. Up until then, God had provided everything for mankind. Now, it is up to man to provide for his family. (Think about this: if it was God’s punishment for a man to work, why is it we women are so quick to take on their punishment as well as our own? Seriously think about that one a minute.) The daily grind got you down? Well, thank Adam. He failed to protect his wife; He failed to step up and be present. Hmmm, sounds a lot like men today. Is there irony here? Think about it. What keeps a lot of men from being the heads of their households and loving their families as they should? Work. You know the consequence of Adam’s failure to lead.
Now, you can’t forget the fact that Adam was specifically punished because he ate the fruit at Eve’s leading. He allowed his wife to lead him into temptation. I think this is a cautionary tale, once again, showing the importance of a man-run household. (Yes, I am currently dodging all the tomatoes being thrown my way.)
God’s design for marriage is still perfect. Even in today’s society, God’s design for marriage can and will work if we allow it to. We must willing to let go of our biases and what the world has taught us and trust that God’s way is the best way. I am not saying this is easy. It all goes back to that whole dying to self thing. Each day we have to remember:
Galatians 2:20 (NLT): My old self has been crucified with Christ.It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Be blessed and be a blessing,