My Stance on Homosexuality, Sin, and Same Sex Marriage (Sure to Make Both Side Equally Unhappy)

Wow! This whole Duck Dynasty thing has stirred the pot a little, huh? No, this whole ordeal is not a big deal; after all it is just a TV show; however, I think we all know it goes deeper than that.

I have been very careful about voicing how I really feel about homosexuality and gay marriage. Why? Well, because I know my views will make both sides unhappy. The few I have discussed this with say that I am not taking a stand at all, but I feel I am….so here goes nothing (I am feeling a little naked right now):

I am a Christian. I am a Christ follower. I believe the Bible to be 100% correct. I believe homosexuality is a sin based on the following (but please keep reading):

Leviticus 18:22 – “Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.” (NIV)

Leviticus 20:13 – “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” (NIV)

The story of Sodom and Gomorrah found in Genesis 19

Romans 1:18-32

But God shows his anger from heaven against all sinful, wicked people who suppress the truth by their wickedness…. Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn’t worship him as God or even give him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As a result, their minds became dark and confused. Claiming to be wise, they instead became utter fools. And instead of worshiping the glorious, ever-living God, they worshiped idols made to look like mere people and birds and animals and reptiles.
So God abandoned them to do whatever shameful things their hearts desired. As a result, they did vile and degrading things with each other’s bodies. They traded the truth about God for a lie. So they worshiped and served the things God created instead of the Creator himself, who is worthy of eternal praise! Amen.
That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other. And the men, instead of having normal sexual relations with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men, and as a result of this sin, they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved.
Since they thought it foolish to acknowledge God, he abandoned them to their foolish thinking and let them do things that should never be done. Their lives became full of every kind of wickedness, sin, greed, hate, envy, murder, quarreling, deception, malicious behavior, and gossip. They are backstabbers, haters of God, insolent, proud, and boastful. They invent new ways of sinning, and they disobey their parents. They refuse to understand, break their promises, are heartless, and have no mercy. They know God’s justice requires that those who do these things deserve to die, yet they do them anyway. Worse yet, they encourage others to do them, too. (NLT)

Wow! Sounds just like America today.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 – “Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” (NIV).

For those of you who are waiting for the reason I told you to keep reading, here is part of it:

1 Corinthians 6:11 – “And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.”(NIV)

Jesus Christ came and took away all of our sin. My sin of greed, slander, adultery (cause even if you just think about it-you have committed it)etc. are just as bad as homosexuality and I have been forgiven because I believe in Jesus Christ. No one’s sin is too great for Jesus Christ.

I know some of you are just thinking this is just a bunch of Christian Ease, but please keep reading.

I don’t think many non-Christians and maybe even part-time church attenders know just how much and how hard it has been beaten into our heads that we are not to be ashamed of the gospel of Christ.

Romans 1:16-17: For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes.

Luke 9:26: Whoever is ashamed of me and my words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of them when he comes in his glory and in the glory of the Father and of the holy angels.

If you knew this maybe you could better see the dilemma some Christians find themselves. I don’t want to hurt people. I don’t want people to hate me. Yet, I don’t want to be afraid or ashamed to share Jesus. I don’t want to disappoint or anger God. I think some people don’t want to have anything to do with God, but not because of his true message, but from what they have witnessed other Christians do or say or how they’ve been taught the message. Christians, we must be careful to not brow beat people over the heads or tear them down with scripture. Yes, there is a fine line between being ashamed to speak the truth and brow beating, but if we concentrate more on the love, the rest will seem less harsh. If I am asked if homosexuality is a sin, I will say “yes,” because it is the truth as I understand it, but I will make sure that I speak the rest. I will make sure that they know the blood of Jesus covers the magnitude of sin. I will make sure they know that Jesus loves them just as they are. If they are offended by the term sinner, I will let them know that I too am a sinner. We are all in the same boat and covered by the same blood.

For those of you who know how big I am on obedience, this may be kind of confusing for you, but hang on, I’m almost there.

You see, for me, it is all about a relationship with Jesus Christ. Now, I’m not talking about sporadic church attendance or an occasional Bible read, but an in-depth, living for Him kind of relationship. It is my job to get others to this place; the place where they can honestly trust and live out the scripture because they know Jesus to the depths of their hearts and souls. For me, being a Christian is not a religion, it is my life. My “soul” (punn intended) purpose on this earth is bring others to him and let’s face it, it will never happen by waving a sign or bashing people over the head with the Bible (nor will Facebook-lesson learned from yesterday).

It is my belief that the best way to reach people is to meet them where they are and help them to build a relationship with Jesus. If homosexuality is a sin, like we suspect, then Jesus will convict and change hearts. After all, it was when I began a true relationship with Christ, that he began to change my heart and life and that is where obedience began to take shape. Why wouldn’t he do that for someone else? No one has a perfect understanding of the Bible, so I think we should put it in Jesus hands. Now some Christians see this as people pleasing or “tickling the ears.” I don’t agree. There is a time to talk obedience, but that is after God has convicted and changed the heart. Now that is not to say that we aren’t to speak the gospel at all prior to a conversion, but we must follow Jesus’ example. Jesus didn’t carry a sign and picket. He didn’t rent billboards attacking others. Jesus at times spoke lovingly, but other times he was just honest. I think it is a complete misnomer to say that Jesus was always loving and kind. Remember the temple? Remember the Pharisees? Remember the time he sent a huge crowd away because they simply wanted miracles from him. We must know our audience and adjust our teaching styles accordingly. Yesterday’s Facebook postings regarding the whole Phil thing reminded me of the following verse:

Matthew 7:6″Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

Some people just don’t want to hear it and they will tear you down and make you look stupid. Don’t waste your time or energy on a lost cause. I’m not saying to give up on the person, just find a different method.

Fellow Christians, I believe we are fighting on the wrong end of the spectrum. If we are worried about this country’s morals and traditional families, then maybe we need to start taking a closer look at ourselves. Divorce is just as prominent in the church as it is in the world. Maybe we need to start promoting family values and building more biblical marriages in our own churches before we look at the world. I truly believe if we can get our own families back on track, these other issues will become moot.

For my Christians friends who think I’m nuts, it gets worse. I don’t believe it is the government’s job to define marriage. Speaking from a legal view, I think it goes against or constitution to limit marriage to a man and a woman. I also understand the need for homosexuals to get married. They want the right to healthcare benefits. They want a right to inherit property without a big legal battle. They want to have equal rights. I don’t blame them a bit.

Now that being said, if we want homosexuals to have the right to love who they want and say what they want, Christians must be able to speak their beliefs as well. After all, liberals stick up for the rights of Muslims in this country over the rights of Christians despite the intolerance Muslims have for women and the injustices and torment they put on their women. This doesn’t make a bit of sense to me. Phil Robertson may have been a little harsh with his words, but it was founded in scripture. His intention wasn’t to bash gays, he was just trying to spread the gospel of Jesus Christ and state his beliefs. This country needs to stop being so sensitive. I also think that while freedom of speech may not apply here, as A& E has a right to fire employees, there is an issue as to whether he was fired/suspended for his religion. Religion by the way is a protected class. Now that is a big deal. It is also a very emotional issue for some Christians as we feel as if our rights are being taken away.

While I love everyone, I promise you this: “I will not be ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of salvation to everyone that believes,” Romans 1:16-17.

I will never feel bad or ashamed of Jesus Christ. I will not be silenced from speaking His truth. Yes, I will do it in love and I will share his grace, but I WILL NOT be silenced!

Yes, it may appear that I am standing in the gray. I am not. My stance summed up is this:

I believe homosexuality is a sin because the Bible says it is; however, I believe the blood of Jesus Christ covers all sin. I support the rights of homosexuals to marry. I do not support or condone any sort of bullying of homosexuals and I will love everyone the same. If asked, I will share my thoughts on homosexuality, as I will not be ashamed of the gospel of Christ, but I will focus on sharing the love of Christ to hopefully lead others to a complete relationship with Jesus Christ and allow him to do convicting if convicting needs done.

See, I promised you I would make both sides unhappy.

Some of you may be wondering where all this is coming from. Yes, there is someone in my life I love very deeply who was homosexual (I say was because he has now gone to be with the Lord), but God, ironically enough, did not use him to convict me. He used two ladies, who I see occasionally and don’t even know their names, to change my heart. These two ladies have been together for 30 plus years, they have raised a good family, and are just good, kind-hearted people. These ladies don’t need me to tell them I think their choices are sinful. They don’t need my scriptures thrown in their faces. They know what the Bible says. What they need to know is that God loves them and Jesus died for them and would do it for them again today, no matter what. They need to know they are welcomed by God and in my church and in my life…just as they are…no strings attached.

Whenever my inner Pharisee wants to come out, I am reminded of these two ladies and my heart changes because I would never want to do or say anything to hurt them or be a stumbling block in any way.

I think this song says it all and way better than I ever could. I just love Casting Crowns! Please, please listen or read the words to this song as they have softened my heart time and time again.


7 thoughts on “My Stance on Homosexuality, Sin, and Same Sex Marriage (Sure to Make Both Side Equally Unhappy)

  1. I’m not upset by what you wrote but I know the Bible does not condone homosexual marriage. Never is there even one Biblical precedent for it. I disagree with you, but I’m not upset with you for your opinions.

    I don’t, however, understand why you seem so eager to disappoint everyone who reads your blog. I kept feeling as though I were being encouraged to continue reading on strictly so that I would know for sure that I’d be unhappy with the result.

    I will say this. It is not being a “pharisee” to stand with God’s Word on matters of morality. The believers who do that should do it to the glory of God and not because they enjoy stirring the pot or screaming out “sinner” constantly.

    I would rather be hated for supporting God’s Word than loved for betraying it.

    1. I do not feel like I’m betraying God’s word at all. Rather, I’m actually living it. It is more important to me to lead others to Christ and let Christ do the convicting than for me to be right. I was actually encouraging those who are against Christianity to keep reading the blog post because there were certain people I wanted to reach. Yes, I realize that some Christians would not be happy with my stance, which is why I was reluctant to do so, but at the same time I realize that there are whole generations of people we are missing because we refuse to show love and compassion. If you have taken the time to read any of my other posts, you will know that I am a die hard believer in obedience to the word of God. However, we can’t get people there if they first don’t have a relationship with Christ.
      God Bless!

      1. Obedience to the spirit of the Word is also good.

        Have a very happy Christmas. I’m so grateful He was born.

  2. I know what you mean. It’s all about loving the person first. Not worrying about the rest. Jesus loved the sinners first and through that love they came to Him. As Christians we are called to spread His love for us and that means loving the person and letting them find their way to God through that love. This is what Pope Francis (even though the media often twists what he says) has been urging as well. To stop spreading just the “rules” and instead try spreading the love and see what the Lord will do! Merry Christmas & God Bless!

  3. I would also like to point out that I did not say the Bible condone homosexual marriage. I said something like I feel that legally it is unconstitutional to ban same sex marriage. I hold true to that because there is freedom of religion in this country and we should not make laws based on our religious beliefs. Furthermore, I do not believe God wants us to follow His ways because we are legally obligated to. It is and should always be our choice. Lastly, I said I support their RIGHT to marry.

  4. Lysa ,
    I struggle to understand your post in its entirety. I am not a confrontational person by nature , and truly do not want to offend anyone. Like you , I feel Christians should be a reflection of Christ, and show His love for mankind through our words and actions. However, you state that homosexuals have the right to marry, even though you believe the Bible to say homosexuality is a sin. So here’s my struggle …do you believe once the homosexual confesses their sins and repents, turns away from that sin, they are to remain married? Assuming you say yes, then have they truly repented? Assuming you say no, How can you support the “right” of a homosexual marriage in light of eternity? Is the audulter truly repentant if they continue in an audulterous relationship? According to Hebrews 10:26, if we sin wilfully after we have received the knowledge of truth , there remaineth no sacrifice for sins. We may continue to disagree on this issue, but as a Christian I personally cannot understand your position. My greatest fear is that In a world where we try so hard not to offend but rather to love, we love some people to eternal damnation.

    1. I apologize for my delayed response as I took a break from writing. I understand your confusion. I did not go back and read the entire post, but I believe you are referring to the fact I said we should not make laws governing homosexuals right to marry. As a woman who believes very much in obedience to the Word of God, this was a hard statement to make. The Bible say homosexuality is a sin. Unfortunately, the Bible does not dictate law in the United State of America. Our Constitution and set up is very clear that we are not to have a national religion, thereby our religious points of view cannot be forced on others. God wants us to choose to follow Him, not be forced to by law. I do not believe a homosexual marriage is valid in the eyes of God; therefore in the case of repentance, he or she would would not be bound to his or her vows. I very much agree with you that our fear of offense may very well “love” someone into eternal damnation, and I pray for God to show me a better way to reach the lost. As God continues to do a work in my heart I grow in maturity. Therefore, I will review this post in its entirety, and see if it does more harm than good. The last thing I want to do is lead someone astray. Thank you for feedback. I appreciate the kindness you displayed in your dissent, which allowed me to take a closer look at my words. God bless.

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